Psychotherapy & Counselling for Adults with Depression
in Kingston (Eastern Ontario) and Online
It's time to make those changes so you feel more like the YOU that you've been wanting to be...
You really want to just be able to get up in the morning and feel good about things without having to fake it or force yourself.
Is that SO HARD to do? Yup. Yes it is. Right now, it's quite hard.
WHY are you soooo TIIIIIIIRED?? Why is it so hard to do things that you know are simple? Why does doing laundry feel like it takes the effort of an army and you can't do much other than pull the covers back up and close your eyes?
You're not asking for a lot - You just want enough energy and drive to brush your teeth and take a shower, take halfway decent care of yourself, do the things you need to do regularly in your life like grocery shopping and going to school or work.
Fun? Fun feels so far out of reach it is an something you read about in English class in grade six but you didn't really understand it. Fun is something you might have had in the past, but nothing even makes you smile these days, never mind talk to people or do something nice for yourself.
What is Depression?
Depression is a temporary or chronic state of body, mind, and mood. It can be a temporary speed-bump-level problem, or it can be a seriously incapacitating problem that can have an incredibly negative impact on someone's life and that no amount of friggin' positive thinking or unicorn-fart-rainbow-glitter will make go away. It is an energy-stealer. A fun-robber. It makes your get-up-and-go, well, just kind of sh*t the bed. Yes, we said sh*t the bed. When you are really plagued by depression, you feel like the world's most epic fail.
People suffering from depression can experience a wide range of symptoms, including persistent sadness, loss of interest in activities previously enjoyed, feelings of guilt or worthlessness, difficulty concentrating, fatigue, and changes in appetite or sleep. In addition to major depressive disorder (MDD), there are several other forms of depression that may show up differently for different folk, such as persistent depressive disorder (PDD), postpartum depression (PPD), seasonal affective disorder (SAD), and the depressive experiences that can be a part of the picture in bipolar disorder, psychotic depression, and adjustment disorder with depressed mood. Each person's depression experience has unique characteristics. We believe that in order to achieve optimal treatment outcomes in psychotherapy, each of our clients deserves specialized treatment tailored to their personality, preferences, thinking patterns, and needs.
Depression can prevent people from living their best lives and cause them to feel overwhelmed, helpless, and hopeless. While if you have never done psychotherapy before and you're feeling pretty shitty, you might have a hard time believing that anything can help you; but, psychotherapy has been proven to be an effective treatment for depression, time and time, again.
Why Come to Limestone Clinic for Psychotherapy to Help your Depression?
With an-actually-nice and non-burnt-out, skilled therapist who feels like a good personality fit to you (this IS important), individuals with depression can gain insight into the factors that create depression issues and keep them around. We may dig in the dirt a bit, to root out the exact causes of a clients' conditions, or we may focus on helpful steps in adjusting behaviours and thinking patterns to bust that depressive inertia and start things rolling in the right direction again.
The team of therapists at Limestone Clinic offer comprehensive psychotherapy treatment for depression (and other mental health concerns, too). With a crew of experienced professionals who celebrate when *each* *and* *every* client graduates from therapy, and access to a range of evidence-based therapies and cutting-edge developments designed to bring you into emotional balance as quickly as possible, Limestone Clinic provides clients with the support they need to make meaningful changes in their lives.
How Does a Psychotherapist Help?
A psychotherapist is a person who can help you talk about your feelings and make you feel better when you're sad or upset. They can teach you ways to think about things that make you feel better and ways to solve problems. Sometimes they might give you special exercises to do or things to think about that can help you feel better. It's like having a special friend who is *just* *focused* *on* *you*, who can help you when you're feeling down. When nothing you're doing on your own seems to be working to make you feel better, they can help you figure out what to do next.
How Do You Treat Depression?
Our clients learn strategies to cope with difficult emotions. Our preference is to teach you how to be your own therapist so that your investment in psychotherapy pays off for the rest of your dang life. We'd rather not see you again and again if we can teach you how to better weather life's bumpy roads. (Don't get us wrong - sometimes routine maintenance or working on upleveling your self-psychotherapy badassery is indicated). It's really a good mixture of knowledge-injection, good problem-solving, and a heap of common sense - we know what works, and we teach it to you!
So, how do we do this? Well, psychotherapy provides a specially formulated professional relationship that permits the time and space needed where you can express yourself without fear of a negative interpersonal experience; though, we will challenge you to bust out of your comfort zone if your comfort zone is keeping you in Depressionville. Additionally, psychotherapy for depression offers valuable support during times where you may no longer have the energy or mental stamina to sort out how to help yourself. You and your psychotherapist will work together to build your resilience and to better manage future mood challenges. Ultimately, psychotherapy empowers those suffering from depression by helping them regain control over their own lives and make positive changes for long-term success.
Depression is Treatable!
Let Our Psychotherapists Help You Get Better in Kingston, or Online anywhere in Ontario
Talk-based therapies have been demonstrated many times over to be the most long-term cost-effective intervention for depression - even more effective than medication! Longitudinal research (which is research that is done over long periods of time to study real-life outcomes of treatments) has shown that just four months of talk-based treatment of depression lasts longer, with fewer future episodes of depression relapses relative to the use of prescription anti-anxiety medications.
Yes - 16 sessions of psychotherapy sets you up for a better mood trajectory for life.
This means that our team of depression therapists are basically bad-mood butcherers, with the skills and expertise you need to vanquish your mood vexations, sizzle them on a spit, and then feed those fallen feelings to their ferrets for a feast.
Our staff of psychologists, social workers, and registered psychotherapists provide support to tackle these problems in weekly talk therapy sessions. We want to work with you to teach you what we know about anxiety, so you can start to feel more at peace as soon as possible. Once your intake process is completed, we recommend that you commit to at least 6 – 8 sessions to ensure you can 'dig in' and make the progress you need for lasting change.
Lots of us talk about "feeling depressed," almost so casually it's like depression is normal and nothing serious these days. Even kids in primary school, when asked how they are feeling, will say "Depressed!" to express temporary feelings of sadness or lack of energy or joie de vivre. Depressed mood can certainly be a lighter phenomenon, with lighter problems and easier paths out (for example, a DQ visit always works for Dr. Kris' 8 year old!), and it makes sense that if you are noticing your mood is headed south, you tackle it with some professional treatment (i.e., psychotherapy and counselling from a licensed and experienced provider), sooner rather than later to keep things on a helpful trajectory, but what if it is a lot more than a few bad days? Depression can be a more serious set of symptoms that tend to cluster together and make many people who have these symptoms diagnosable with a mental health condition. Depression-related mental health disorders affect millions of people worldwide. More than feeling bummed that you spilled your DQ Blizzard, these are long-term experiences of profound sadness, hopelessness, and absence of motivation. Motivation is such a problem that depressed people can suffer other ill effects because taking care of themselves, such as by showering, or eating nutritious food, seems so effortful they just can't manage to do it. These issues are serious because it becomes impossible to meet the everyday demands of one's adult lives when such symptoms are severe and unremitting. Depression can also be expressed in our physical systems, where our bodies will show problems such as: fatigue that never responds to rest, changes in appetite (up or down), and difficulty sleeping (way too little, or way too much). Here, we're not talking about just temporarily feeling sad in response to something challenging that has happened, but clinically depressed people are stuck in a syndrome that can last for weeks, months or even years if not treated. Depression is often a very complex problem with a number of interconnected issues at its roots. Research commonly indicates that depression can be related to factors such including genetics, brain chemistry, and meaningful life events. People who have a family history of depression are more likely to develop the condition, but that's not all that surprising, as it is quite depressing to be raised by a depressed parent who is unable to give you the attention or love that you need because of their own suffering, or if one of your siblings is in an out of hospital with suicide attempts. While research cites changes in the levels of certain chemicals in the brain, such as serotonin and norepinephrine as likely factors to consider in depression, medications designed to impact these chemical levels are often ineffective, suggesting that for many, there is a different approach needed, and "chemical imbalance" isn't really the story. In fact, if we investigated joy, for instance, and compared the brain chemistry of people who were experiencing joy with people who were just "ho-hum," we would see different chemical signatures during episodes of joy. But, doesn't that just make sense, anyways? In our clinic, the most consistent causes of depression are typically related to meaningful life experiences, many of them occurring early in a person's timeline, that change how we see others, ourselves, or the world at large. These changed views are particularly common after upsetting or traumatic interpersonal interactions (e.g., neglect, abuse, bullying, isolation and loneliness), losses, and other events that comprise developmental trauma. These types of life events alter thinking and interaction patterns, sometimes as a matter of perceived survival (e.g., "I have to keep everyone happy and never upset anyone in order to keep my siblings from harm and to be safe around my family" in the context of an alcoholic and violent parent, for example), and these patterns usually make a lot of sense in the difficult situation. However, as we get older, these patterns can bring us more upset, as efforts to survive situations that happened when we were younger, are usually outdated our seasons of adulthood. Oftentimes addressing problematic patterns of interpersonal interactions, while also coming to understand how they impact our views of ourselves and those around us, can be a recipe to get the heck out of chronic depression. Effective treatment for depression is available. At our clinic, it is really a lot of radical common sense in unpacking how your past impacted you, as well as what you do and say in your adult life that may accidentally keep the inertia of depression stuck inside of you. Treatment at Limestone Clinic will usually include a combination of talk-therapy approaches, including psychodynamic, behavioural, cognitive, and so then, yes, also cognitive-behavioural!. Brainspotting, a way to assist the brain to naturally heal itself, is often used to help a client's nervous system and emotional regulation system move naturally from dysregulation to a state of calm. Brainspotting does this with 100% therapist-guided, organic processes. These therapy approaches, used in just the right way for each individual, can help our clients to learn new ways to cope with or eliminate emotional distress and depressogenic thinking patterns. Lifestyle changes, otherwise known as additional radical common sense, such as exercising regularly, healthy eating, avoiding substances of abuse or excesses and vices, and good sleep hygiene, can also help to improve symptoms of depression. It is important to remember that everyone's experience with depression is unique, and it may take some trial and error to find the right treatment plan. It is essential to work closely with a licensed and skilled mental health professional to find the best treatment options. This sh*t won't go away with a vacation or a bubble bath. It is important to note that depression is very often our brain and body's ways of trying to cope with meaningful and negative experiences over the course of our lifetime. Having depression is not a sign of weakness, nor is it something that one can simply "snap out of" through acts of force of will or fortitude. It is a serious medical condition that can benefit immensely from professional help and if we can say so - the sooner you get moving on the problem, the easier it is to get out of it. Depression can really impact its sufferers terribly, and it is for this reason that it is important not to ignore or be tempted to downplay symptoms of depression. At the risk of being repetitive, seeking help early usually makes a big difference in trajectory of your recovery. When depression starts to feel heavy and stuck, we feel ashamed and pessimistic that anything can help. At Limestone Clinic, we know what to do to help you, and we won't leave you up sh*t creek without a paddle. If you connect with us, you'll be feeling like you're sailing on a nice new ship to your new life with a pirate copilot, some sails, some oars, a compass, and maybe eve a sqwawky, somewhat inappopriate parrot. Please don't fret. We know what to do and can start to help you, starting by mapping out more of what has happened to you and how the problem began. We believe in getting down to work on your recovery in your very first session. With tried-and-true methods and strategies, you can begin to better understand what happened to you, what's happening in your brain and body now, and how to build your beautiful new emotional life, in ways that are more helpful, less trigger-y, one helpful step at a time. We got you, boo.
What are the Signs of a Depression Problem?
Different people feel things differently.
You and your best friend or sibling may each be diagnosed with a depression issue, while showing different types of signs, and even at different strengths or levels.
Some people with depression problems can manage to get along in their day-to-day activities, but suffer hidden costs. Managing day to day may take all they've got, and there isn't anything left for actually enjoying life.
Common Signs of Depression
The following are some common problems experienced by people who have a depression issue. But remember, everyone's different. You might have different signs, or experience them differently. If you're having trouble doing things you need to do because of how you're feeling, it might be helpful to talk to a therapist. They can help you feel better.
In case it is helpful to you, here is a list of commonly experienced signs of depression issues:
Persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or emptiness
Loss of interest in activities that were once enjoyed
Difficulty sleeping or oversleeping
Changes in appetite and weight
Fatigue and lack of energy
Difficulty concentrating or making decisions
Feelings of worthlessness or guilt
Thoughts of suicide or self-harm
Do you think you have a depression problem that is not on this list? It is completely possible that is the case - these are not the necessary signs, nor are they the only signs.
The main thing that would indicate that therapy would be helpful to you is a problem with some combination of the things above (or variation of them) and that the issues you are noticing are getting in the way of you being able to function in some meaningful way in your life.
This information is meant to be helpful, but not diagnostic. If you think you have a problem with your emotional balance, that is enough. You get to decide if you are ready to take some action to improve your emotional life, and you do not have to have a diagnosis or a doctor's approval to get started in counselling.
You're all the way down this webpage reading about Depression, yeah? That's enough of a sign that something uncomfortable is important enough to justify your attention, and action. You can start now and get support.
What are the Types of Depressive Disorders?
An depression problem is a diagnosable condition or "disorder," when it meets certain benchmarks or guidelines set out but the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual.
A depression problem can become a "disorder" when it causes you significant upset and it is serious enough that it blocks you from meeting the role expectations you have in your life, on a regular basis. It's not just having a bad day, but it's being unable to socialize, work, study, or manage to keep up with the typical daily demands in your life.
Common Signs of Depression
Depressive disorders are what they sound like - a certain way of classifying the mental health conditions that feature the problems that come with feeling very down - persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and a loss of interest or pleasure in activities that were once enjoyed. Depressive disorders are quite common - estimate suggest that roughly 8% of Canadians will experience a diagnosable depressive disorder at some point in their lives. Further, about 5% of Canadians aged 15 and older reported that they had experienced symptoms of depression in the past 12 months (Statistics Canada, 2019). Women report higher prevalences of depression than do men, and certain groups and populations may also be more likely to suffer from depression (e.g., those living rurally and those in lower income groups are more likely to report feeling depressed, just to name two). Most importantly, clinically diagnosable depression has a significant impact on a person's quality of life.
The disorders we see most commonly in our clinic are Major Depressive Disorder, Persistent Depressive Disorder, and Dysthymic Disorder.
What are some common causes of Depression?
• Oh, I dunno... living through a worldwide pandemic? • Living in a turbulent political and cultural climate. • Social isolation: People who lack social support may be at a higher risk of depression. • Chronic Illness/Chronic Pain. • Lack of sleep: Chronic lack of sleep can contribute to depression. • Overstress/Burnout: Long-term stress, chronic stress, unhappiness with one's occupation, and high work pressures can contribute to the development of depression. • Bullying: Having been bullied as a child or as an adult has a very high long-term likelihood of depression problems. • Childhood Abuse, Neglect, Untrustworthy or unreliable caregivers is a major predictor of adulthood depression. • Trauma and PTSD: Traumatic events such as sexual abuse, physical abuse, or the loss of a loved one. • Medications: Certain medications can cause depression as a side effect. • Perfectionism, things are "never good enough". Having extremely high standards for oneself and others can lead to depressive patterns and thinking. • Life events: Major life changes such as an unexpected relationship loss, divorce, or job loss can lead to depression. • Medical conditions: Certain medical conditions such as cancer, heart disease, and thyroid disorders can contribute to depression. • People-pleasing, and having difficulties saying "no" can lead to long-term problematic relationship patterns that can leave you depleted and depressed. • Choosing to prioritize others over yourself. • Family environment - you may have grown up with depressed family members and "learned" to be depressed, just like you learned to use a spoon. • Genetics - some people are more likely to have a personality that is sensitive to feeling sadness, worthlessness, helplessness. • Lack of exercise: Not getting enough physical activity can contribute to depression • Social media: Overuse or addiction to social media can contribute to depression • Grief and Loss: Going through the process of grief or loss can lead to depression if the season of loss is protracted or especially difficult in a meaningful way. • Lack of purpose: feeling a lack of purpose or direction in life can lead to depression • Lack of control: The feeling of not having control over one's own life can lead to depression. • Lack of self-esteem: Having a low self-esteem can make one more prone to depression
What should I expect in therapy for my Depression Concerns?
• You book a free consultation or a full-length first appointment with us by sending us a message or phoning our office (613-877-4148)! • Once you and your therapist decide to work together, you and your therapist will get really curious about all the things that are going on that are related to your depression problems. • You and your therapist will examine your past, including any traumatic experiences, to identify any connections that may be relevant to your current condition. • Together, you and your therapist will develop a level of trust that will allow you to share all the aspects of your inner thoughts and feelings that are relevant to your therapy. • You will investigate how the events in your life, your thought patterns, and your current circumstances are contributing to your depression. • You will develop techniques that are unique to the way YOU think and react, to reduce the triggers that cause intense emotions. You will do this without losing your individuality or sense of self. • You will start feeling better after a period of putting in the work. It takes about 8 sessions before you start to really notice changes happening, and the next 8 sessions are even more transformative. Of course, this happens only, IF you're being honest and transparent with your therapist. If not, it'll take longer and be a little less satisfying in terms of seeing results.
Is Psychotherapy for Depression right for me?
• Are you committed to making a change in your emotional life and your relationships? • Are you willing to trust a helping professional, share even the tricky parts of your experiences, in the interest of diving head-first into feeling better? • Are you willing to invest in yourself financially and do you have the funds to give this a fair shake (think 8 sessions to begin to feel different, 16 sessions to really begin to nail the depression coffin shut)? • Will you honestly give yourself the time you need to turn around a challenging problem and hang in through the challenging parts at the beginning? For most people seeking help for depression, you can expect that a fair shake at psychotherapy would be 6-8 sessions before you can expect to see a noticeable difference. • Realistically, only you can decide if this is right for you. Don't come because your mother wants you to come. Come because you are certain you're reading to take action now, to make your life different. • If you're not sure, an option is to book a free 15-minute consultation to get a "feel" for the therapist of your choosing?
How Psychotherapy Works
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Book your free, 15-minute phone consultation with one of our Kingston therapists to determine if you are the right fit for one another.
In your first session, we’ll take a deep-dive into your history, develop a custom therapy plan, and commit to change.
Through regular pre-booked weekly sessions, you and your therapist will work as a team to help you learn, grow, and advance in your life.
Discover a life with relief from worry, fear, burnout, & blah.
How Can We Help You?
TYPES OF THERAPY
AREAS OF EXPERTISE
Adult Psychotherapy & Counselling (Kingston, Ontario)
Online Psychotherapy & Counselling (Ontario)
"Walk-In" (aka "Single Session") appointments
WSIB Psychological Assessments
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
Adult Anger Psychotherapy
Adult Anxiety Psychotherapy
Adult Depression Psychotherapy
Adult Grief Psychotherapy
Adult Phobia Psychotherapy
Adult Trauma/PTSD Psychotherapy
Postsecondary Student Clinic
We are located in Kingston, Ontario, but also offer convenient online therapy services to all of Ontario, which means that we often have clients see us from the Toronto/GTA, Ottawa, London, Sarnia, Niagara, Peterborough, Muskoka, Belleville, Napanee, Amherstview, Kingston, Wolfe Island, Gananoque, Sydenham, Glenburnie, Inverary, Rockport, Thousand Islands, and Brockville regions.